Cherishing Paris

As a Turkish woman deeply rooted in my country and culture, I find myself yearning for my hometown every single day. This longing has inevitably made my life in Paris quite challenging. Recently, I confided in Okan about how, even after more than 15 years, Paris still feels transient, like a “rental” - actually, and told him I often daydream about living in Turkey.

Okan’s reaction was to offer a thoughtful suggestion: he suggested compiling a list of my favorite places and routines in Paris, believing it could help me rekindle my connection with the city—a city that many dream of living in.

So here are a few of the things I hold dear.

Firstly, after enduring four apartment changes during Covid, my - now - husband and I moved to the 18th arrondissement in mid-2021, and it is one of the best decisions we ever made. I quickly fell in love with this neighborhood, enjoying strolls along the pedestrian-friendly corners and Avenue Junot pausing to admire Dalida's former home and imagining her singing "Gigi l'amoroso" from the beautiful balcony. I relish my afternoon golden lattes at Two Doors (bobo assumée), indulging in cocktails at Hotel Particulier or Chez Ginette, pain aux noix and croissants at Atelier P1, savoring a delightful dinner at Loulou Montmartre, devouring the "18e" pizza from Il Brigante, and experiencing culinary excellence at L'Arcane or l’Arpaon. Above all, the simplest joys, like Sunday grocery shopping on Rue du Poteau, have become cherished traditions.

A true sanctuary for me is my florist, Maison Mirabilé, where we celebrated our marriage after the official ceremony at the city hall. The array of colors and shapes in that store is simply extraordinary. Catherine, the owner, is delightful, often showcasing creations from mainly female artists during pop-up events.

Living close to Marché aux Puces de St Ouen has been another highlight. When we first moved here, I couldn't resist a weekend without browsing my favorite shops and enjoying a coffee at La Crème. We've adorned our home with beautiful and unique finds from the Marché. I am eagerly awaiting sunny days to return and perhaps hide another few purchases from my husband.

Venturing beyond my neighborhood, I find joy in exploring open markets, with Marché d'Aligre being a perennial favorite. Marché de Breteuil holds a special place in my heart - which may or may not be due in part to the Turkish gözleme stand. When it comes to food and markets, it’s impossible not to enjoy le Marché des Enfants rouges. So many good stands – les Enfants du Marché stands out as a personal favorite.

Paris boasts an abundance of incredible restaurants. The list is long, and my favorites might not be too original for viewers of this blog. But here are a few experiences that I cherish. First off is Ellsworth, not just for its cuisine (which is great) but for the memories of date nights with my husband. Hutopi, founded by childhood friends Hugo, Thomas, and Pierre, is always a gastronomic delight (you can see their picture together exposed in the bathroom dating from pre-school). It particularly resonated with me due to my own very close relationship with my childhood friends and hence felt very close to home. Special mention goes to Amagat, favorite terrace for sunny weather, currently showcasing the talents of Turkish chef Sahin Erdal.

Ultimately, my favorite place in Paris is our home, and my favorite meal is whatever my husband cooks that day. Reflecting on it all, I realize how fortunate I am to call this magical city my current home. While it may feel like a rental, it's certainly worth the price.

Ceyda Cengizer

I was never an “Emily” or a “Carrie” in Paris.

When Okan asked me about my Paris I was smiling inside. I thought to myself, having a Paris account, wandering around Paris and smiling on the photos he must be thinking we have always had a great relationship with Paris.

My story is a little bit different, and I am happy to share it with you.

I was never an “Emily” or a “Carrie” in Paris. Respected the culture, loved the books and writers, was a fan of movies because of the realness, bluntness… but I was never a oh my Goood I have to go to Parisss type of gal.

To tell you the truth I was dreaming of Kefalonia, Ischia, Florence, Rome, Amalfi or even clubbing in London more than Paris 😊

Then a coincidence brought me to Paris in 2002. I didn’t like Champs Elysées, I didn’t like Foquet, I didn’t like Café de Flore I found the coffee cold, the famous hot chocolate too sweet,overpriced and even then I asked about Les Deux Magots the café nearby, which I still love by the way. If I weren’t a huge fan of Simone De Beauvoir Café de Flore was like another touristic café where no one speaks French. I hate shopping so Galleries Lafayette besides the marvelous architecture meant nothing to me, by the way again no one speaks French in there. I loved Musée du Louvre and went directly to see Italian paintings hence my real wish of going to Florence and Rome. My first impression of Paris was: “the city is beautiful with magnificent buildings but too much “made” everything is prepared like a movie platform” That was exactly the reason why I literally ran away to Naples, Rome, Athens soon enough to find real life.

Years later when I came back, I told people guys don’t take meto those touristic places, I don’t want to do that Champs Elysées, Eiffel Tower, Avenue Montaigne cliché, take me to a breakfast where you would usually go, show me what you do in real life. I am sure none of you goes to Queen and dance in bubbles which is by the way really 90s.

One of them said I know where you will go and fall in love directly and we went to Place des Vosges, started walking around little streets, took a coffee in a real French café. I discovered Jardin des Rosiers where people with naked feet reading a book kissing their “amoureux” I sat on the street and enjoyed a falafel 😊 And for the first time I enjoyed being in Paris far from the “I came to Paris so I have to go to Ladurée” crowd. I discovered Bastille, Oberkampf, Cour du commerce, Musée de la Vie Romantique, Maison d’Isabelle, Passage de l’Ancre, Musée Rodin, all the small streets of Montmartre.

I discovered the word “caviste” from a friend who used to say Mon caviste told me to drink this with that each time he brought wine to an apéro. Never I had a caviste before 😊 I met the guy and he was like for me a savant, a magician 😊

I learned that in Paris people love talking about food, men love cooking and most of the time they are the ones who give you a great receipt. I also learned that in Paris women don’t talk about their beauty secrets like a Turkish girl would talk about her coiffeur, her intermittent fasting schedule but that doesn’t mean that they don’t care. I started to have great massage, hammam, beautician, hairdresser addresses and that they are all for Paleo diet. They wake up at 7 to brush their hair and pretend like they just woke up and left the house in a hurry.

I found out that they don’t like chain supermarkets much they love going to the local markets, touch and smell the food they want to buy.

I discovered Balzac’s home, my father loved Balzac and mom and dad’s flirtations were all about the Lilly of the Valley😊 It became my happy place very quickly.

I discovered all the streets where my favorite French movies were taken. I fell in love with the bridge of Alexandre III, had a girls night out on a péniche and played babyfoot, read a book lying on the sofa of Shakespeare & Co bookstore, waited at the waiting rooms of the doctors who are always late, I met French administration where you have to ask 5 people at least to have one right information, I had a bank person who is in charge of my account! I have never entered in a bank in my life before, we just did everything online. It was such a funny experience. 

I waited in line because that boulangerie is the best in town for baguettes and that fromagerie has the best goat cheese. Eating is not a joke in Paris. You can’t go to a chain coffee shop to drink coffee because it is not real coffee, you can’t grab a sandwich for lunch you should savor whatever you eat, these match me so well. I learned that Parisians are also like me not a real fan of I love Paris wouuuww exaggeration and don’t really go to all those Do it in Paris stuff.

The more I met them the more I liked them. Like me they are against everything, they express themselves loudly, I love the strikes, manifestations, the fact that they never let go off anything.

I love that life stops at 4 o’clock for a huge Pavlova or Religieuse because it is goûter (tea time).

I love the doors in all the colors and shapes and sometimes I stop by to take photos of them. I love taking a walk towards St Germain, asking advice to my caviste (oh yeah, I have one) and on my way seeing my neighbors and gossiping about the politicians. 

All this is to tell you that Paris and I shared lots of fun and sad stories, sometimes melancholic sometimes sunny after all those years still a lot to uncover and always very beautiful in Septembers my dear Paris you are home. 😊